Due to all the attention over Colin's rapid and quickly expanding relationship with Alicja, it got mean thinking 'What is love, what does it really mean? How do you really know if you are in love with someone, and them with you?
So this lead me onto the next obvious question: How do you know if what you have with another is true love, and if so, then is that also considered unconditional love?
So I looked up on the net the definitions... and well, now I'm even more confused than ever!
Please have a read and also become confused... no sorry, I mean, please feel free to offer your opinions, thoughts and feelings upon this mind-blowing subject too! : - ) xxx
Definition of the word LOVE:
A strong positive emotion of regard and affection; "his love for his work"; "children
A deep feeling of sexual desire and attraction; "their love left them indifferent to their surroundings"; "she was his first love"
Definition of the word LUST:
Lecherousness: a strong sexual desire crave: have a craving,
appetite, or great desire for...
Self-indulgent sexual desire (personified as one of the deadly sins)
Definition of the term TRUE LOVE:
The form of romantic affection that is considered pure and wholly positive, not just based on feelings of lust.
Definition of the term UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
Unconditional love is a term that means to love someone regardless of one's actions or beliefs. It is a concept comparable to true love, a term which is more frequently used to describe love between lovers.
I uncondtionally love my closest friends and my sister. I lust Colin. I have never true loved anyone except for the vampire Eric Northam but he isn't really real, is he?
ReplyDeleteGem give us another question
ReplyDeleteI'm not overly religious by any stretch of the imagination. The following are definitions, some of which have been adopted (and adapted) and used by the church. But it is their meaning which are interesting....
ReplyDelete"Agape (ah-gah-pay) is the main word used for “love” in the New Testament. There are three principal Greek words which can be translated as “love” in English, each with different connotations. The two most common were Eros, which refers to sexual love, and Philos, which means friendship or brotherly love (Eros does not appear in the New Testament, but Philos does). Agape was the least used in Greek and least specific in its meaning.
In the Old Testament, the Hebrew word for love is Ahab and was used in the same broad ways and contexts as the English term: sexual love, love of a spouse or child, love of humanity by God, friendship, and so on. In some contexts, like the Song of Solomon, love is given a decidedly passionate and erotic meaning. In others, it is far more muted.
Because the concept of Agape was so general in Greek, it was possible for the early Christian community to use it without bringing in too much philosophical or theological baggage. Thus, among the Christians, Agape came to refer to the unearned love God had for humanity...
The concept of Agape was not limited to just God’s love of humanity; it could also be used to describe the love one person had for another. In contrast to the sexual love of Eros or the friendship expressed by Philos, though, Agape described a selfless kind of love that involved giving without expectation of anything in return."
I think mankind is limited in our ability to truly love. I think the strongest or most unshakable love is the love that a parent has for their child. The rest is all really a decision one makes. I think that's why they created marriage vows. And why people should REALLY think good and long before they take those vows. I think the sexual desire kind of love is the easiest kind to have -- because it requires very little giving, but rather is something from which a person derives pleasure. I think it is also the easiest form of love to lose, for the same reasons. People "fall out of love" all the time -- when the chips are down, or when they get bored, or when they lose their attraction for the other person... because this is not love; it's sexual desire, ultimately. In terms of male/female partnerships, or male/male or female/female, it always starts out there (with attraction and sexual desire), but if it never goes further past that, then it doesn't last. Because real love is work. It's choices that we make.
very interesting
ReplyDeleteThank you A#8.21 PM that was a really interesting history lesson ; ) And it certainly shows how difficult it has been to classify and define the meaning of 'love' throughout the life and times of the human race.
ReplyDeletePersonally, I agree for me... 'unconditional' love, is one that you are mostly likely to feel for your child. It's the kind of love that never dies. As a parent, you can somehow never stop yourself from surrendering to that form of love, no matter what your child does or whatever happens. Even if they 'break your heart', the love still remains within you for life. Maybe it's connected to the feeling of responsibility, we feel it's our duty and so are automatically programmed to continue such a love.
Love between two adults is an entirely different feeling, because we can 'fall in and out of love' with another person. They are not our responsibility for life, because primarily as an adult you are responsibile for own self.
I think to make a relationship last, two people have to remain each other's 'best friend'. So that once the initial lust and desire have simmered down, it's the friendship side that determines whether you can make it as a couple on a long term basis.
As for Colin... well I think he's just about covered every kind of love going! LOL